Get Them A Driver’s License: Let them Grow Up

Wisdom lost through the ages, common sense is no longer common.

Recently, at a dinner gathering, two of the couples sitting next to  my wife and I  were talking about how their teenage kids always wanted them to drive them to school functions and other events they were going to .

I have heard this scenario before, with parents talking about how their kids had no interest in learning how to drive. Really !

I wonder why?

As long as mom and dad will drive them, why should they learn how to drive and accept any responsibility?

Then the normal response is, “I get tired of arguing with them , they don’t want to do it.”

First off, who is the boss in your family?

Next, they like to go places don’t they?

What is wrong with just making the statement, “I don’t have time to take you everywhere, you are all grown up, if you want to go, you will have to learn how to drive. It’s time you accepted some responsibility and started driving yourself. “

Start thinking of somewhere you need to go when they need to go somewhere, they will get the point.

Unless you want them living in your basement until they are thirty, it’s time to lay down the law and make them grow up. if you want to raise responsible mature people, you can’t be afraid of hurting their feelings or making them feel inferior. Feeling inferior is a decision they make on their own, you are not in charge of their feelings, and you  have no control over their feelings. 

You aren’t doing them any favors by patronizing  them and keeping them under your wing. If they don’t learn to fly, they never will, and chances are your grandchildren won’t either.

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

The aborigines of Australia

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com. 

 

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the Lack of Discipline in Society

Last month in Florida, a school bus driver witnesses a vicious assault on a 13-year-old boy. He radioed the bus dispatcher and frantically begged for assistance, as he feared the victim was being seriously injured. But he did not intervene.

The driver, an elderly gentleman  expressed dismay that he didn’t help the youngster being attacked. His main reasoning was it was against school policy for him to intervene.

He was also elderly so that may have played into the decision also.  Despite his age , if he would have intervened, he probably would have been punished by the school.

Regretfully, in today’s society, there are so many restrictions in place, especially when a minority is involved , it is extremely dangerous for someone to get involved and help a person in need.

Gone are the days when discipline played a role in raising our children. Far too often , kids are allowed to do whatever they want with no threat of discipline. Many roam the streets creating havoc.They know they have rights and they  act like they can do whatever they please with no fear of consequence, there will always be someone to feel sorry for them and bail them out of whatever trouble they manage to get into.

Regretfully , they are correct, in many cases there is no father at home, and the mother is either working or off doing her own thing.

Gone are the days when parents sided with teachers and the child was always wrong until proven otherwise, gone are the days when kids didn’t tell their parents if they got in trouble at school, for fear of punishment worse than death when they got home.

Gone are the days when most kids had enough respect for their elders so as to not cause them embarrassment by getting into trouble. In those days it brought embarrassment on the whole family when a kid got into trouble, that was enough of a deterrent to keep many kids on the straight and narrow.

Gone are the days when teachers, facility, and others such as bus drivers could actually discipline wrong doers and maintain a safe environment for others.

Gone are the days when good old common sense prevailed, and people thought more about their responsibilities than their rights.

And we wonder what is wrong with society.

Gary has been a writer/ photographer for over 20 years, specializing in nature,landscapes and studying native cultures.Besides visiting most of the United States, he has traveled to such places as Egypt,the Canary Islands,much of the Caribbean, and studied Mayan Cultures in Central America, and the Australian Aboriginal way of life.Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in many different cultures!

He has published several books about the various cultures he has studied and applied what he has learned to solving the many issues facing not only the United States, but the world as well.

Common Sense solutions to complex problems.

For more information and a link to his hard cover and Ebooks, please check his website.http://www.commonsensejourneys.com

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There is an extreme shortage of common sense in today’s world,
I often think back to what my parents and grandparents believed and said, at the time I thought they were totally out of their mind and ignored it. I now wish I would have listened and followed their advice more often.
It is in this light I have decided to publish some of my random thoughts based on the views of our ancestors.